9 Ways to Obtain Grace
from Confession

Confession is an act of honesty and courage – an act of entrusting ourselves, beyond sin, to the mercy of a loving and forgiving God.
–St. Pope John Paul II

CONFESSION HAS SUPERNATURAL POTENTIAL
From God’s wonderful mercy He has provided us with confession which has the supernatural potential to change our lives, to give us fantastic grace (actual grace) and restore our souls to saving grace (sanctifying grace) but sadly, most of us don’t make use of God’s healing mercy which awaits us in the sacrament of reconciliation. Few attend confession and many of us, who do go to confession, don’t have a real hate for our sins and just vaguely list a few of our sins, with out a great desire to know ones offenses, or without whole heartedly desiring to stop committing them and then presume we are forgiven. Sadly then most go on our merry way living life just the same with little hope for eternal life from a lack of true sorrow for our sins. That isn’t what confession is about.

This supernatural sanctifying grace–forgiveness–isn’t given to us just because we want to be forgiven, we have to accept forgiveness. Much of the time, we might go to confession hoping for forgiveness, but we still aren’t truly sorry for all of our sins, and we reject God’s mercy because we still love some of our offenses (don’t want to amend them) or we aren’t sorry for offending God but rather are sorry for a vast number of other reasons like hurting someone else or not liking the consequences of our sins. And without being truly sorry for each and every one of our sins, we reject saving grace. Saving grace can’t live in a soul that rejects it by any unrepented sin. Therefore, someone can be sorry for many sins, but if they haven’t grown enough in their faith to be truly sorrow for ALL sins, they are still unable to accept God’s sanctifying grace.

True contrition [sorrow] of heart along with a purpose of amendment snatches the soul from the hands of the devil — St. Bridget of Sweden

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Below is a list of what we need to do to receive the wonderful graces which a soul can get through the sacrament of reconciliation to help obtain or maintain true sorrow:

By it [confession] genuine self-knowledge is increased, Christian humility grows, bad habits are corrected, spiritual neglect and tepidity are resisted, the conscience is purified, the will strengthened, a salutary self-control is attained, and grace is increased in virtue of the Sacrament itself.
–Pope Pius VII

1. HUMBLE YOURSELF
First, we need to humble ourselves. If we think we hardly sin—and we think everyone else sins far more than we do, or that everyone else is “the problem,” and we’re doing really well—then we can’t obtain the knowledge of our offenses against God, because we don’t understand our misery. Or, if we only see a handful of our sins, and we repeat the same ones over and over again in the confessional, then we need to be learn how to be honest with ourselves and open our minds and our hearts to realize just many sin we have that are blocking God’s love from our lives, due to our countless unknown offenses. We can’t grow in closeness to God if we don’t have a true desire to know our sins against Him that are blocking our relationship with Him.

We—along with everybody else (unless you are the most pure saint, then you will be the exception)—continuously commit many sins every day, and many of those sins we aren’t even aware of. For example: distracted during prayer, avoided the cross, complained, desired to be esteemed, worked outside of God’s priorities, were frustrated when things didn’t go as you wished, etc. There are so many countless sins we commit, we would be devastated to truly know how often we offend our Lord. In order come to know the sins we still love and to avoid our sins in the future, we must first become aware of them in the present.

A soul does not benefit from the sacrament of confession if it is not humble. Pride keeps it in darkness. –Saint Faustina

2. UNDERSTAND THE SERIOUSNESS OF SIN
We should take confession very seriously since all sin offends God whom we should love above all things. Sin pushes away His graces (help), hurts our relationship with Him, brings sorrow into our lives and the lives of those around us, and mortal sin—serious sin we choose to commit—causes us to loose God’s gifts of saving grace and makes us deserving of eternal punishment in Hell (cf. 2 Thessalonians 1-5:12). Therefore, confession, the greatest gift God has given us to move our souls to truly hate all of our sins, is most desired for our salvation; it’s delivers us a real hope of living a life of joy and an eternity of happiness with Jesus. Confession frees us from suffering the pains of mortal sin, since reconciliation ot a priest is the only ordinary way to reunite a soul who has broken their relationship with God. *(cf. 1 John 5:16). Confession is an invaluable gift from God to help us to grow in greater holiness even for those with only venial sins, who have perfect contrition. Any sin—whether mortal or venial—should never be taken lightly.

…There is such a thing as deadly sin [mortal sin], about which I do not say that you should pray [be reconciled with God through confession]” — 1 John 5:16

3. EXAMINE YOUR CONSCIENCE
When something is as vitally important as confession is, we should take the time to do it well. Since we sin so often, we should look at the choices we make in our day-to-day lives to see where we fall short of love. The following link can provide us with the assistance we need with examining of your conscience prior to confession.

Strive always to confess your sins with a deep knowledge of your own wretchedness and with clarity and purity.
— St. Francis de Sales

4. DEVELOP PERFECT SORROW
Perfect contrition (perfect sorrow) is necessary to receive the fountain of graces that abundantly flow from our Lord during penance and is necessary for salvatation at the hour of our death. We might think we are truly sorry for our sins, since we don’t like doing the wrong thing and feel guilt. Unfortunately, most of us don’t realize we aren’t truly sorry or even possess imperfect sorrow (imperfect contrition). If we don’t truly hate our sins and work hard daily to resolve to stop offending God we have no contrition. CCC#1451 Perfect and imperfect sorrow (actual sorrow) is proven by our actions…just like faith is. Many of us prove that we don’t have perfect contrition or any contrition when we are fine with injuring our Lord over and over again with our offenses, because we never put forth effort to change our sinful ways. Loving God is hating to sin. Even if we possess imperfect contrition and are forgiven in confession, from the graces in that sacrament, we must move forward to obtain perfect contrition (true sorrow) since we must have true sorrow (real sorrow) to be saved. The more we go to confession, the more we can develop greater sorrow for our offenses against God, through the grace which is given us in the sacrament. “For godly grief [actual sorrow] produces a repentance that leads to salvation and brings no regret, but worldly grief [sorry because you were caught or another selfish reason] produces death” (2 Corinthians 7:10).

St. Benedict Labre says bad confessions, made without perfect contrition and with no desire to change, leads to the ruin of souls.

5. MAKE RESOLUTIONS TO CHANGE
Change is hard, but change is the beginning of everything. When we enter the confessional without a desire to change, we have proven to God that our hearts are not truly sorrowful, and the grace our Lord longed to give us won’t be received. Our lack of sorrow might be so great that we won’t even be forgiven of our sins—even if we ask for forgiveness with our words—because our Lord knows our hearts. If our hearts are truly sorry, we will desire to stop hurting God through our offenses, and our Lord, who sees our love and rewards us in return, wants to help us to sin no more. Through the sacrament of reconciliation, God will assist us on the road to perfection for a life of joy and an eternity of bliss. If our hearts are truly sorrowful, we need to practice the “3 P’s”—Pray, Plan (make a resolution to change, and Perform (do what we resolve to do)—for every sinful tendency we are trying to rid our life of. This will result in the change, which is necessary for growth.

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6. EMBRACE THE GRACE
When we approach the confessional with true contrition (real sorrow), understanding the seriousness of sin, with the desire to sin no more, there is a bountiful assortment of graces our Lord showers on the truly contrite heart (which you can read about in the adjacent column). When we begin to experience true contrition and work hard to not offend God, we begin to receive grace after grace after grace from the sacrament of reconciliation. So many graces are available that we can grow in holiness rather quickly as a result of frequenting the sacrament with an open, trusting heart. The graces can become so obvious, that we, like the saints, can develop a craving for the sacrament. We might even develop the gift of tears which can flow as a sign of perfect contrition. We can’t fathom the amount of help God wishes to give us since His love and mercy is so great. The only thing that prevents us from receiving His love fully is our sins. Therefore, we must open up our hearts and receive the loving help of our Lord.

So let us confidently approach the throne of grace to receive mercy and to find grace for timely help — Hebrews 4:14.

7. BELIEVE IN FORGIVENESS AND MERCY
If we are truly sorry for all of our offenses, and don’t believe all of our sins are forgiven after confession, how can we accept the graces God wants to give us? If we truly desire salvation, and desire to stop offending God (want to be a saint), how can we believe God doesn’t want that for us? God burns for us to desire to love Him and He will forgive anyone who is truly sorry and strengthen them to find perfect sorrow so they can reject sin and embrace His love for eternal life. We must remember that God loves us so much that—no matter what offenses we’ve committed, and no matter how many years we’ve spent turning our back on God’s will, if we have actual sorrow (perfect or imperfect contrition) for our sins, we will be forgiven through confession. We must believe in God’s mercy, and we must also realize that we don’t need to ask God over and over again for forgiveness; we are forgiven the first time every time, as long as we are truly sorry, God truly forgives. “Then Jesus said to her, ‘Your sins are forgiven’” (Luke 7:48). “…from now on do not sin again” (John 8:11). Just as the prodigal son, who repented and turned back to his father after years of wasting his father’s gifts was forgiven by his father, will too will be joyfully forgiven when we repent of our sins and turn back to God and work hard to sin no more; in the same way God will shower us with gifts and graces upon our humble return to help you find eternal life. This is God’s incredible mercy for all of us, and we will be showered with these graces with each and every confession we make with a sorrowful and contrite heart.

8. FREQUENT THE SACRAMENT
If we are in the state of grace and have fallen into grave sin, we must go to confession immediately if we have willingly committed a grave sin, because the grace we do have departs from our soul every moment we remain in a state of mortal sin, since we are no longer united with God. It is as if there were a hole in our soul and unless we repair the hole (through confession) the grace that is in our soul will continue to slip away and all could be lost. Like John says (cf. 1 John 5:16) we must confess deadly sins (mortal sins) to a priest; simply asking for forgiveness, going straight to God, might lead to eternal death.* If we were to die with that mortal sin on our soul, we would be deserving of hell for all of eternity because we chose to live outside of God’s mercy. The consequence of unrepentant mortal sin upon death is forever.

Frequenting the sacrament for those with venial sins opens up the door to holiness. If we want to grow closer to God and live a life of joy, we should frequent the sacrament of confession for venial sins too since without the amazing grace and benefits of a proper examination of conscience—the flood the soul through the sacrament—we wouldn’t be able to achieve the life of great holiness that God has called us to.

The more often it [confession] is used and the more carefully it is made as to both lesser [venial] and greater sins [mortal sins] – conveys [brings] the soul increasingly forward and is so pleasing to God that it leads the soul to God’s very heart.
–St. John of the Cross

Furthermore, St. Padre Pio invited all believers to confess at least once a week since he, as well as the other saints, knew very well the power dispersed through confession. Even people without contrition can receive actual grace to move them towards being actually sorry for their sins, if they confess them to a priest. The advice from the saints on confession is pretty much universal: frequent the sacrament and embrace God’s healing transforming grace. However, if we frequent the sacrament once a week or more, we need to be established in our faith to benefit from it. If we attempt to receive grace without opening our hearts to know our sins—through a deep examination of our conscience, and making daily resolutions to avoid sin—we could enter the confession week after week, and no change would come about since grace is not delivered to a closed unhumble heart.

In the life of the body a man is sometimes sick, and unless he takes medicine, he will die. Even so in the spiritual life a man is sick on account of sin. For that reason he needs medicine so that he may be restored to health; and this grace is bestowed in the Sacrament of Penance.
– St. Thomas Aquinas

9. DESIRE TO GROW IN HOLINESS
If we are looking to grow in holiness, and willing to look into our daily offenses, and eager to work diligently with God to try to be perfect as our heavenly Father is perfect, then there will be incredible graces bestowed into our souls from our most generous, loving Lord. He gives greatly to those who love Him, because our Lord will not hold back His love from anyone who seeks Him—for if you ask, you shall receive. We work hard to succeed in other aspects of our lives, how about our salvation? Eternity is forever.

Remember the more beautifully we live our lives today, the greater the reward God gives for all eternity. For ever earnest act of love our time in purgatory is lessened by each sacrifice, self-denial, prayer and works of mercy we perform out of love for God. Our generous God will repay each one according to what they have done (cf. Romans 2:6) therefore all your efforts aren’t only pleasing to God but a great reward is promised from our Lord who is always faithful to His word.

If you want to be transformed into the person God created you to be and live a life of joy  and an eternity in bliss – then frequently receive God’s mercy in the sacrament of reconciliation with great trust in Him and experience God’s embracing arms of love which are waiting for you.


 

**However, if it’s impossible for a soul to attend confession—not because of embarrassment or any other excuse, but really, truly impossible—and they are dead in their sins (meaning they committed mortal sin), and their soul has perfect contrition (which is very hard to possess and only God’s knows if it is truly present) for their sins because they greatly offended God whom they should love (not just simply sorrow because they don’t want to go to hell or some other selfish motive), then their mortal sin could be forgiven by simply asking God for forgiveness, since God reads the minds and probes the hearts. He will forgive anyone who truly seeks forgiveness, just like Jesus did for the criminal crucified next to Him, “Truly I tell you, today you will be with me in Paradise” (Luke 23:43). That criminal, who was born dead (with original sin) and has committed many actual sins in his life (deserving of punishment in purgatory), was completely forgiven – like with the waters of baptism (pardoned from the punishment of his sins as well), because of his perfect contrition, due to the desires of his heart. God can do the same for us. If we have already been baptized, then the punishment for our sins will still exist but forgiveness can be given from the perfect sorrow in someone’s heart. Nonetheless, when it does become possible for that soul to attend confession—since God gave the power to forgive sins to the priests (John 20:23), wants us to confess our mortal sins to a priest (1 John 5:16), and to be certain we are forgiven since we don’t know if we have perfect contrition—that soul is obliged to go to the sacrament of reconciliation as soon as possible.

 

 

 

 

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graces from confession

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Forgiveness of Sins

Desire to Sin no More

Knowledge of Sins

Understanding the Gravity of Sin

Light to See the Path to Salvation

True Contempt for Your Sin

Grace to Avoid Sin

Understanding of God's Mercy

Peace and Joy

Hope for Salvation

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